Over the last 3 months, I've had a dizzying array of personal and professional realizations. I've had to revisit and revise still more memories in light of these revelations and I do not like it. Not even a little bit. Not that the realizations themselves have been bad, quite the contrary, but the work to … Continue reading Time to Work Through the Past
Over this past month I've been gradually reading Autism and Asperger Syndrome in Adults by Dr. Luke Beardon. I enjoyed reading this concise overview of some of the ways being Autistic affects many of us. I found several sections to be helpful in my own life both currently and in helping to reframe more of my past … Continue reading Book – Autism and Asperger Syndrome in Adults
Great review of Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate by Cynthia Kim.
Counterpart found this to be the most helpful book for trying to understand me better ❤ So I wholeheartedly recommend it for allistic (non-autistic) spouses, partners, friends, etc.
I loved it myself too!
The subtitle for this book is “A User Guide to an Asperger Life” and that pretty much sums it up. It is also a memoir in that the author illustrates the points she is making with anecdotes from her own life.
Because the target audience for this books seems to be, for the main part, other autistics, like me, rather than just those trying to understand them, I found it so much more useful than the self-help type books aimed more at NT parents. Especially as Cynthia was only diagnosed at age 42, and I’m now 41 myself. There is so much useful information here on things like managing sensory issues, on how aging might effect us, on how to manage relationships including marriage.
Again, like all the books I’m reading, I see so much of myself in these pages, even though a lot of situations are different too. For…
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I usually can't name my emotions. This is not an optimal thing, of course, because emotions can affect all kinds of things and it's difficult to control or understand such things when I'm unaware of what they even are. So I somehow developed a containment system over the years. I have this ability to lock … Continue reading Emotional Containment Failure
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. Part the first: Background Part the second: Context Part the third: Advice (with swearing) [You are here.] 3 - Advice (with swearing) Disclaimer: This is general advice and is far from a complete list. Most of it comes down to treating your child like a fully functioning Autistic … Continue reading Some #ActuallyAutistic Advice for #ElmoMum
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. The last link should be correct once the third part is posted. Part the first: Background Part the second: Context [You are here] Part the third: Advice (with swearing) (3/18/18) 2 - Context This section originally began as a Facebook post, that you can read here. One of the … Continue reading More Context on #ElmoMum
An #ElmoMum elaboration in three short parts. Links should be accurate as the posts are published. Part the first: Background [You are here] Part the second: Context (3/17/18) Part the third: Advice (with swearing) (3/18/18) 1 - Background One reason I wrote my last post about evaluating books about parenting Autistic children is because, at the … Continue reading Some Background Re: #ElmoMum
Otherwise entitled: "How can a desperate parent tell when a book about parenting an Autistic child will be helpful vs harmful?" (with a short detour to start with) https://twitter.com/mamautistic36/status/972198323770753024 I'm an Autistic parent. I've never found a lack of understanding for parents in general from the Autistic community. Just a lack of understanding for parents … Continue reading Evaluating Autism Parenting Books
Otherwise entitled: "Parents Defend Damaging Autism Parent Memoirs" Two people, so far, have directly responded to my concerns about the spread of damaging "autism parent memoirs" with the idea that Autistic adults don't want parents to "have a voice" or write at all in the first place. It's possible that some of us do want … Continue reading Respecting Autistic Children Doesn’t Sell Books (apparently)
It's almost always easier for me to talk to strangers than to people I know well unless the person I know well is also Autistic. It's an act of self-care for me to socialize (or not) in ways that are comfortable to me whenever possible. Talking to strangers instead of people I know well can … Continue reading Talking to Strangers