Perfection is an Illusion

I'm not perfect. I never claimed to be. But for some reason when I fall short of perfection my brain tells me that I've failed at something that should have been possible. The reality is that nobody's perfect. Expecting it of ourselves or even thinking that other people might be it... can be highly damaging. … Continue reading Perfection is an Illusion


How (Not) to Disappear

Disappearing is a word that is used, primarily by my local circle of friends, to describe when one of us stops communicating for a while and stops visiting social media either mostly or completely. We've all done it from time to time, some more than others and each to varying degrees. So what does this … Continue reading How (Not) to Disappear

Outsourcing Executive Functioning – Family Meetings

I, like many Autistic people, struggle with executive functioning (EF), which makes many aspects of parenting and running a household especially difficult for me. Note: For a general overview of what EF is and how it can impact people's lives, please check out this series of posts from Cynthia Kim. Over the past several months, … Continue reading Outsourcing Executive Functioning – Family Meetings

Review Reblog: Nerdy, Shy and Socially Inappropriate by Cynthia Kim

Great review of Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate by Cynthia Kim.

Counterpart found this to be the most helpful book for trying to understand me better ❤ So I wholeheartedly recommend it for allistic (non-autistic) spouses, partners, friends, etc.

I loved it myself too!


The subtitle for this book is “A User Guide to an Asperger Life” and that pretty much sums it up. It is also a memoir in that the author illustrates the points she is making with anecdotes from her own life.

Because the target audience for this books seems to be, for the main part, other autistics, like me, rather than just those trying to understand them, I found it so much more useful than the self-help type books aimed more at NT parents. Especially as Cynthia was only diagnosed at age 42, and I’m now 41 myself. There is so much useful information here on things like managing sensory issues, on how aging might effect us, on how to manage relationships including marriage.

Again, like all the books I’m reading, I see so much of myself in these pages, even though a lot of situations are different too. For…

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